Wedding Stress Coaching Questions
How do I know if I need wedding stress coaching?
What happens during wedding stress coaching?
How many coaching sessions are involved?
How long does each session last?
How much does wedding stress coaching cost?
How do I pay for coaching?
Why might it be helpful to have my partner or someone else on the coaching phone call?
How do I persuade my partner or other loved one to be part of the coaching?
How can I invite the person I am having the conflict with?
Is this service only for traditional first-time weddings?
How do I know if I need wedding stress coaching?
If you have been stressed out about a problem with a family member, fiancé, or friend, over the wedding planning process, and if the problem is not getting better despite advice from other people in your life—this is when you could use wedding stress coaching. The timing could be immediately after you get engaged, when lots of big decisions get made, or the week before your wedding—or any time in between.
What happens during wedding stress coaching?
The coach will first get some basic information about your, your fiancé, and your wedding plans. Then the coach then will ask you to describe the problem and what you most want help with. He or she will help you clarify your feelings and your values about the situation. The coach will gear advice to your unique circumstance, but will reflect the principles in our book, Take Back Your Wedding, and our program “The First Dance.”
How many coaching sessions are involved?
That’s completely up to you. It can be one session or more. At the end of the first session, the coach and you can discuss whether you want to schedule another time to talk.
How long does each session last?
Sessions can be 30 minutes or 60 minutes. It’s up to you.
How much does wedding stress coaching cost?
It’s a dollar per minute, or $30 for a half hour and $60 for an hour. Because we want to encourage you to have your fiancé or another loved one on the phone, we offer a discount if you include another person in the coaching: $25 for a half hour and $50 for an hour. If you do not need formal therapy, this route of coaching is much less expensive and may help you more precisely with wedding planning issues around family problems.
How do I pay for coaching?
Go to Sign up for coaching. We take all major credit cards directly through our website.
Why might it be helpful to have my partner or someone else on the coaching phone call?
There are two reasons it can be very helpful to have someone else be part of the coaching. First is that sometimes a partner or other loved can help you explain your situation, reflect with you after the coaching session, and share their own perspective with the coach. The second reason is that is when you are having conflict over the wedding with someone important to you—someone you trust—then it’s ideal to have that person on the call with you. This might be your partner, a parent or a sibling you can be honest with, or a member of the bridal party.
How do I persuade my partner or other loved one to be part of the coaching?
Some people are understandably reluctant to talk about their personal concerns with a “stranger,” even one trained to be helpful and to keep everything in confidence. A good way to approach the person is to ask that he or she be part of the call in order to support you: you are feeling stressed and confused about something, need some third party input, and would really benefit from having someone from your “team” on the call. Then it’s up to the coach to make your partner feel comfortable and inclined to participate. This invitation strategy can work with a parent, sibling, or friend—anyone who is a support person for you. You might even point out that you will save money by having him or her on the call!
How can I invite the person I am having the conflict with?
Our coaches are equipped to help people deal directly with their disagreements and come to solutions—in fact, that’s what we like to do! If you want to deal directly with a relationship conflict during a coaching session, make sure you let the other person know what’s on the agenda. For example, you might say to your partner, “We’ve been going round and round about how to deal with your family about the guest list. I don’t want to keep arguing with you about it, and I think a wedding stress coach might help us figure out what to do and put this conflict behind us. Will you join me in trying some coaching?” Alternatively, you might do the first coaching session yourself and discuss with the coach whether it’s a good idea to bring in someone else for a second session, and get tips on how to invite them.
Is this service only for traditional first-time weddings?
Although we have more experience working with the wedding planning stress of first time brides and grooms, we are happy to work with couples in other situations such couples marrying for the second time, couples with children from previous relationships, and same sex couples.